Man Enough: Dismantling the Masculinity That Was Never Christ’s

The world sells you a mask: never cry, never bend, never need. But Christ wore no mask—He sweat blood in prayer (Luke 22:44), asked friends to stay awake with Him (Matt. 26:38), and cried over a city that rejected Him (Luke 19:41) and wept when his friend Lazarus died (John 11:35). If the Son of God wasn’t afraid of His own humanity, why are you?"

Philippians 2:5-10 says :

5, For* let this mindset be in you°, which was also in Christ Jesus:

6, who, existing in the form of God, did not deem it a seizure to be equal to God,

7, but emptied himself, having taken the form of a bondservant, when* he became in the likeness of men; --the God of the universe chose surrender.

8, and having been found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, when* he became obedient as far as death, and even death from a cross. ---the most vulnerable moment in history became the most victorious.

9, Hence, God also highly exalted him, and granted to him the name which is above every name;

10, in order that every knee should bow in the name of Jesus, those from the heavenly and earthly and subterranean places,

If He though being God chose to humble himself and serve those who hated him and were below him , how about me and you ?

So why do we treat vulnerability like weakness? If the son of the Highest embraced his humanity, I think we can too.

The world gave us a script: be hard and detached to be respected and loved. Often times this doesn't give us what we want, it makes people afraid of us and prevents us from receiving love from those who hold us dear to their hearts all because we have tuned everything inside us to surviving.

But the kingdom gives us a Savior who bled — not just to redeem us, but to redefine us.

The World’s Script vs. The Savior’s Scars

The world handed us a script:

"Hide your wounds to be respected."
"Never admit doubt—dominate."
"Love is control; tenderness is naivety."

But here’s the tragedy: This script doesn’t work.

It leaves men drowning in silence (suicide rates among men are 3-4x higher than women).
It builds marriages where intimacy dies because "real men don’t talk."
It creates leaders who demand loyalty but never love those they lead.

Meanwhile, the Kingdom hands us a Savior who bled in public.

He let Thomas touch His scars (John 20:27).
He confessed "I thirst" on the Cross (John 19:28).
He called Peter "Satan" one day (Matt. 16:23) and "Feed my sheep" after his failure (John 21:17).

This isn’t just redemption—it’s a redefinition of strength.

In Him, we have strength. We don't have to hold our guard in fear , we can let go and let us his love and wisdom secure and heal us.

If you can’t repent, you can’t grow. If you can’t hold both truth and tenderness, you’re not Christ’s kind of man—you’re moving by the standards of this world.
The Kingdom doesn’t need more ‘Alphas.’ It needs sons."

You want to be strong? Christ’s kind of strong?

Repent like a man. David wrote Psalm 51 after adultery and murder—and God still called him "a man after My own heart." (Acts 13:22)
Weep like a man. Jesus did. Jeremiah did (Jer. 9:1). Paul "wrote with many tears" (2 Cor. 2:4). Weeping in love for those who need God's redemption.

Your Move, Brother

Where has the world’s script failed you?

Are you lonely? Christ asked for companionship in His darkest hour.
Are you ashamed of your tears? God "collects them in a bottle" (Ps. 56:8).
Do you think repentance is for the weak? The "man’s man" Apostle Paul boasted in his weaknesses (2 Cor. 12:9-10).

The Kingdom isn’t looking for chest-thumping conquerors.
It’s looking for sons—men who kneel at the Cross and rise in resurrection power.

So drop the mask.
Let Him rewrite your definition of strength.

Sola scribo deo