My thoughts on Depression and how to solve it

Hello Friends, 

I hope everything is going out as planned and that you are Happy and achieving your dreams.

Today i want to share my thoughts on depression and how to treat it.

The best way i can define depression is a situation where a person is in a Hurtful position where they feel they will be stuck in forever.

The moment you begin to feel trapped on all corners , Depression is just around the Corner.

When All Hope is lost, The feelings of wanting to disappear aren't so far away and thoughts of the world being a better place without you are also nearby.

I have been dreaded by this disease for as long as i can remember and sometimes i wished i got Help when i was younger and did the work i needed to do so that i wouldn't have gone through such a hurtful past but i have no regrets because I know that the lessons i have learnt are helping me in my daily life and will help someone else out there.

The things i have learnt from others , They suffered to Learn them so they could teach me

And the things i have suffered from and the lessons i will teach will help someone who will then pass on the knowledge to someone else

So the World becomes a better place from my pain and the pain of those before me.

I want to talk about some myths that People might have about Depression and Possibly Convince You that The stigma around it is False and spread by uninformed people who clearly don't have any experience on the topic....

1. Depression is for the weak

This is not true , It was honestly too much for you to Carry on your back and that's okay.

For most of us, depression hits us when we are still Young and unable to cope

And so we grow up with these things lingering in our minds :

The way we got Rejected in Preschool

The Hurtful Comments said by elders or even others

Though as we get older ,we learn that Every Hurt person goes on a Rampage to cause pain

But a 7 year old doesn't understand this, All he sees and hears are hurtful things that he might take Seriously and then label himself with those comments.

We can still feel the pain in one way or another

It can still carry on to when we are older until we learn from it.

I also think Opening up about your depression is a strength because You believe you deserve better (You know You can do better!),

You don't know what better is but you know it's possible ( I am learning what Better looks like and it's awesome)

You have faith that you can get there or atleast discover such a place.

You know that you can Live a better Mental and emotional life so you are seeking help

Don't down play this , it is beautiful to desire better and to try to get better.

Those trying to help saying Depression is for the weak , never helps

Rather focus on Sharing Encouraging Affirmations

With those suffering rather than Judging them and making them feel even worse

If you really want to help, remind those who aren't doing well emotionally, that will get better

Even if you understand or not , Just don't make things worse with such unhelpful comments.

2. It is not a manly thing to be depressed

Men and women both experience Grief

Everyone has to meet a dark end in one point of their lives ...

Saying it's not a manly thing doesn't help.

You see, depression isn't just being sad 

It's a Darker kind of sadness

It's a sadness too deep to be expressed

A pile of sad things that have expanded to a destructive level

It's okay to not be Okay , Bro

Unlearn the attitude that you should be on your A game all the time

It's simply not possible and if you want to be a A level G 

You need to learn how to actually be one not fake yourself into One so that you will truly be strong

Pray , Meditate , Read , Get Wiser , Train yourself and eventually You will get there and The storms of Life will truly never shake you

And the People who attack you for not being Man enough are probably scared of being judged by men the same way or Will Attack themselves internally if they feel any sense of grief so it has nothing to do with You but everything to do with them so shake it off and get on to feeling better.

Yes , as a man , You are to be strong for your family but not being strong enough yet isn't a reason enough for you to hate yourself now

If you do the work , You will get better❤.

3. Its just a white man's Disease !

Grief happens to every one

Everyone gets sad but not everyone lets it show.

Many people are depressed and don't even know it

Many people have lost hope and Faith in Life but just brush it off and never get help to heal their Broken Hope because they don't want to appear weak or feel weak.

Let's stop Making those who are suffering feel worse about themselves ....

Support them and let them know that Getting better is possible just make sure You are Healed so that You might not knowily Hurt them or yourself plus when you get Well , your help is much more impactful and insightful also when the other person doesn't get better , you are able to not take it personally but let them go through each and every stage that they might need to heal.

A mistake i used to make before was Try to suppport before i was Healed

I often hurt myself by helping others who didn't need my help and i got back unkind reactions which hurt me alot and expecting those i helped to get better there and then and if they didn't there must be something wrong with me !

I hurt others with The Unsolicited Advice and i was at times quite controlling

So focus on healing yourself if you really want to help others.

Now waiting to help when you are fully well is going to derive some people of the answers they might need but be self aware to know where you stand on having the Answers to Healing

If you know you aren't there yet, share the little you know and Comfort where you can

If you have found the Answers to Healing, you will automatically be patient , calm and really supportive

In fact when you truly get well, you won't push anyone to get better 

You will allow them to Grow and be themselves.

Depression is a disease like any other but the difference is , it affects the mind , thinking and emotions and it should be given Attention like any other medical condition.

To truly heal , 

• You need to Be intentional about your healing ...You need to make Consistent , Conscious Steps towards Getting better...

Healing is serious Business , you need to be ready to do the work.

• You need to Understand How you are permitting Your depression to stay , Many of us don't realise but we do contribute to our depression by staying near toxic people , Enjoying Sympathy and pity from others , Depression as Evil as it is fills some kind of need, Your mind has in some way used depression or something else in it to compensate for something it needs... for example ( This one is classic for us men) When a man doesn't feel he is Good enough , A seed of Being All knowing to get love and respect can be planted that can cause him to always give advice , Parade his wisdom not knowing that as he does this he is unknowingly putting others down and As he Pours his opinon over all the place he might be making it look like he knows everything and People don't like being sidelined and will grow Tired of it ... this example might be bit off course but i think it gives you the idea of Compensating for low self esteem

• You need to Read God's word.

God's word has by far been the most healing thing i have stumbled upon

Mindfulness helped , i really loved it but when i encountered God( just had a idea that maybe he is kind and not harsh)Things Truly Changed....Slowly by slowly , Hope started to get back into me and i started to heal and before i knew it i was healed

I am starting to also learn that Getting Spiritually enlightened is about Learning About what Christ has already done , Has Given you, Has in store for you and Accepting it !

God's word Heals

The Bible works

It can heal your wounds...

Thank you for reading

Have a Good day ❤